By JLP | March 28, 2008
The passing of my dad has forced me to take a look at my life and the way I’m living it. In my mind my dad died much too soon (he was only 61) and I’m not too eager to follow the same path. None of this would bother me so much if I wasn’t SO MUCH LIKE MY DAD! Although we both put on a pretty cheery disposition, we both are (or were in my dad’s case) pretty cynical about the world around us. Such a worldview isn’t healthy. I’m not saying that one shouldn’t be skeptical of the things around us—as some skepticism can keep up from making bad choices—but I am saying that there seems to be a fine line between skepticism and cynicism.
The point of all this?
I think part of my problem is that I’m not thankful enough for the things I do have. Instead of dwelling on all that is wrong with the world and the people in it, I should practice thanksliving.
According to John Marks Templeton’s Discovering the Laws of Life (Affiliate Link), thanksliving is:
an attitude of perpetual gratitude that will draw good to you. It is based on the premise that “thanksgiving leads to having more to give thanks for.”
Sir John then goes on to suggest three ways that we can practice thanksliving:
1. Search for the good and praise it. It’s hard to have a negative and critical attitude if we are looking for the good. That’s not to say we should ignore the bad, but rather seek the good. If we are looking for the good, the bad will fade into the background.
2. Give thanks ahead of time for whatever good you desire in your life. He then mentions the law of life that says, “Thoughts held in mind will reproduce in the outer world after their own kind.” This goes along with pretty much everything I have read on positive thinking. It’s hard to live the opposite of your thoughts.
3. Give thanks for your porblems and challenges. This is a tough one! Who in their right mind would be thankful for their problems? This actually makes sense because when go through problems and challenges we become stronger.
I’m going to make it a point to put these three suggestions to use as I practice thanksliving. I’m sure that the negative attitudes and emotions will creep back in from time to time. But, I’m also sure that if I’m concentrating on the positive the negative will become less important.