Comments on: Money Matters Key to Marriage Success

By: mesa carpet cleaning

mesa carpet cleaning — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 23:11:11 +0000

I could not agree more. Many divorces hinge on money problems – how money is spent or saved. Discussing this with a potential marriage partner is so very important.

By: Kim Kramer

Kim Kramer — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 21:14:57 +0000

I married for love and not for money. I could have made money a priority if I wanted a to compromise everything else that counts. It’s fine to make things clear at the start of a marriage. I made it clear from the start with my husband I don’t have much. It was sort of a success test in a way. If he didn’t like it,
he was free to leave. I was honest. Maybe he respected that. I’ve seen women all around me who get off on men with money and jobs. Were they clear they didn’t have anything so they needed someone with money for security and social acceptance? Or perhaps they were being used for the money they threw around? I’ve seen that too. Even in marriages. What is that saying? I think someone needs to hit them over the head with a hammer to make them understand, that most people are motivated by one thing. Money. I wonder what happens if the money disappears? One good job loss or perhaps a sickness in the family? Business loss? What happens to all the financial understanding then? But what do people understand outside their pocketbooks these days? How can I explain I feel offended when I see women or men digging into our marital situation or other people around me? Perhaps they are comparing. I grow tired of it. I’m getting old enough to say exactly what I think of the whole thing. For whoever is reading this, start with trust. Be honest. Act as friends. Depend on each other. Have faith. Find a good hearted person for a partner or all that accounting won’t mean a thing.

Sincerly,
The Happy Outcast

By: Brenna

Brenna — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 04:05:17 +0000

In times like now, where both the husband and wife agree on finances, priorities and values lead to the kind of lifestyle they want to live. When dealing with money or finances, open communication is the key in marriage.

By: Nicholas

Nicholas — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 17:57:23 +0000

Most of us married for romantic reason. Money is most important, have to be both spender and saver.

By: Richard

Richard — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 03:08:37 +0000

I think the New York Times article is right on. “Marital bliss” is certainly a substantial goal. However, to have the same attitude about money (not necessarily the same spending priorities) provides an important foundation. If you have the same attitudes about money you’ll see that in your partner. You’ll have mutual respect in having goal-setting conversations. You may disagree on priorities but with that mutual respect you have a foundation for coming up with joint priorities and you will have a sense of trust and understanding that will accompany your partner’s priorities. Meg, thanks for sharing.

By: Harvey

Harvey — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 13:14:48 +0000

This blog post is so true. My second wife had a "what-the-hell" attitude toward spending, while I was a bit of a spendthrift. I almost went bankrupt right before retiring, but I pulled myself out of it. One of the small things that I did to increase cashflow slightly was get a life insurance settlement.

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:42:03 +0000

One being a saver and one being a spender would be tough, but communication is still the key to being able to embrace your difference.

By: chriatian debt help

chriatian debt help — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 17:36:34 +0000

I could not agree with more. Money issues, we find, are the THE number one issue when it comes to marriage. The more we know about it, the better off the marriage will be.

By: guinness416

guinness416 — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:49:22 +0000

People can change and learn, though. If I’d written off my husband when I met him (and when he was a financial basket case) my life would be much the poorer now. We balance each other out. He’s still a spender, and that’s fine as long as the percentage of paycheque he’s agreed to add to our joint savings every month goes in, and the bills he’s agreed to cover get paid. It’s low maintenance.

There was another NYT article within the last few days which suggested swapping financial roles every month – if you typically do the investing in the relationship, hand that responsibility to your partner every other month. That made me laugh, knowing that a lot of bloggers would have heart attacks over such a system.

By: Dollar dude

Dollar dude — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:15:32 +0000

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