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Just thought I’d give you guys an update on Beth’s fundraiser for suicide prevention. I blogged about this last week. Unfortunately, the post got buried so lots of you probably didn’t see it. Anyway, I just want to remind you that she’s still looking for donations. When I posted about this, she had raised $400. Now she’s at $460, which is still a long way from her $1,500 goal.

Thanks for considering this.

Beth's Goal

Thanks to all who contributed to Beth’s Fundraising efforts for the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention. She’s up to $965 or 64% of the way towards her goal of raising $1,500. There’s still time to help support Beth’s cause. Just visit her fundraising page and click on the box that says “Support Me.” Thanks for your support.


First off, thanks to those who helped Beth with a contribution towards her fundraising goal. Thanks to some big contributions (that had nothing to do with yesterday’s post), Beth is now 41% towards her goal. The bad news is that she’s stuck at $620. The good news is that you can still make a contribution if you so desire. Just visit Beth’s Fundraising Page and click on the “Support Me” icon.

NOTE: I don’t normally get involved with this kind of stuff but made an exception for a friend. Don’t worry, I won’t be harrassing AFM readers with all kinds of fundraisers. I promise.

Beth has been a reader of AFM for a long time. Over the last couple of years we have become friends through email.

I found out this morning that she is in the process of collecting donations for a walk she will be doing in September for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. She lost her husband in 2003 and has taken up the cause in hopes of preventing other tragedies. I think it’s a worthy cause.

I thought it would be cool if we could help her meet her goal of raising $1,500. As of this writing she has raised just under $400 so she has a ways to go in order to meet her goal.

To make this fun I thought I’d challenge AFM readers to help Beth meet her goal. I will contribute $50 today and another $50 in September IF we can get 51 people to give $20 (or 102 people to give $10) each towards Beth’s goal.

Will you help?

If so, please head over to Beth’s Fundraiser Page and make your $20 pledge. I’ll keep track of the balance and let you know of the progress until the goal is met.

Oh, and to put this in perspective…according to my blog stats, AFM has roughly 5,200 subscribers. Surely 51 of those readers can help out.

A Way You Can Help!

November 30, 2008

Here’s a worthwhile program you can donate to:

According to their website, the Shoes for Orphan Souls has given away 1.6 million pairs of shoes to orphan children here in the United States and throughout the world. That’s great but there are 143 million orphans in the world! The need is still great. You can either donate a new pair of shoes (or more if you so desire) to the program or donate cash to help with shipping expenses.

I learned about this program through my church.

Is there ever a point at which one is too old, too financialy stable, or too something-else to accept financial assistance from his or her parents?

I am assuming that the answer to that question is “yes,” but it seems very difficult to pinpoint the exact time or circumstance when that is the case. Surely it must depend on a number of factors such as:

  • The “child’s” financial status
  • The parents’ financial status
  • The age of both parties
  • The form of assistance (cash, gifts, time, labor, investments)
  • The reason or motive behind the assistance.

On the other hand, perhaps the acceptability of receiving a parent’s generous offer is never truly extinguished. Otherwise we would have to turn down inheritances, life insurance proceeds and even gifts and educational funds for the grandkids.

There is one situation in my personal life which has brought this dilemma to my attention. I still accept financial assistance from my parents in one key area: they reimburse me for the cost of my flight whenever I fly home, which is usually twice a year (at Thanksgiving and Christmas) and averages around $350 per round trip flight.

There’s really no other time or circumstance during which they offer me money, but this offer has stood ever since I left for college. And they continue to offer every year despite the fact that I graduated several years ago and am perfectly capable of affording my own flight. Well, my mother continues to offer, I should say. I think it’s really her way of showing how excited she is that I’m coming to visit; in fact she always ends up offering in a moment of exuberance when I tell her when I plan to arrive – and/or when I casually mention how much flight prices have gone up.

I’m starting to feel a bit guilty about this. Reason One: I can easily afford to pay this expense now. Two: I spend at least that much every month on going out and other discretionary items. Three: I happen to know I have a higher salary than my mother (she’s a teacher and works mainly for fun and for the insurance benefits).

Of course I know they can easily afford it, or else I would never accept at all. But I think it’s time I stand up and say “no, mom, don’t worry about it” when she offers this year (which she’s already done once). Besides, I’m the oldest, and I should set an example for my three younger siblings. I shouldn’t be accepting this kind of “help” when I have a well-paying job and when they see me strolling in with a designer purse or other item I splurged on during the year.

HOWEVER, if my parents ever offer to set up education funds for my future children, instigate an annual financial gift for me and my siblings as part of an estate plan, or even take the whole family on a trip, I plan to graciously and happily accept.

More from Meg at The World of Wealth

EVERYBODY wants my money. I bet I get 5 – 10 phone calls per week asking me to support this charity or that charity. Most of them sound like legitimate causes. However, it’s not possible for me to say yes to all of them.

I normally cut the person off fairly quickly and tell them that I’m not interested and hang up the phone. I know it probably sounds rude but I really don’t know what else to do. I figure they would rather find out sooner than later that they have no hope of success with me. In other words, I’m helping them move on to other potential donors.

As far as our giving goes, my wife and I tithe as well as give to several causes that we feel are important. We budget for these donations and have them paid automatically through our bank account. As a general rule, our budget doesn’t allow for extra giving (although maybe we should pencil in a small “spontaneous giving” fund).

My question to you is:

How do you say no to legitimate calls for help without feeling guilty?

Do you give to pretty much every charity that asks something of you or do you limit your giving to just a few charities?